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Permalink Reply by Bas on August 27, 2008 at 9:18am

I haver often wondered the same, but have come to the conclusion that it's not so much down to 'us as a demographic', but more about having limited options that magnify certain aspects of our life. When you think about it, straight people just live their lives and can meet potential partners anywhere. At work, going out, when doing the things they love, etcetera. Gay people, especially ones that are not fully out, tend to have to go to gay bars, clubs, etcetar. This makes the offering very limited. If you would strip everything down for straight people to the options available to us, I think there would also be a bias to superficiality. So even if it sometimes looks like all gay men are only after sex, on steroids, etc, just realise that there are many different ones out there. It is just a bit harder to find them.

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Permalink Reply by Bas on August 28, 2008 at 12:06pm

Curtis said:

This is going to sound funny, but it's because men are supposed to breed constantly in nature so the species will grow and evolve, but when you get two men whose biological directives are to have babies, you get a lot of ramming.. and no babies

Have you read Sperm Wars by Michael Wiederman? Goes into this biological explanation and the difference between men and women in quite a bit of detail. It's an interesting read. However, aren't human's more than just their urges? I would like to think so.

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Permalink Reply by Evilbunnie on November 18, 2008 at 11:44pm

I hate to say it, but I think it's because most people are superficial and selfish (especially men, regardless of sexual orientation)... it's just how the world is these days. My view is biased though, I haven't met a lot of great guys in my lifetime, and I'm kinda a manhater...LOL. I also think that it's the way society kinda teaches people to act, and sometimes it's hard to break old habits.

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Permalink Reply by Pretty Boy Zec on December 31, 2008 at 7:05am

The superficiality is what society has made us... we as a group or gay people have been marked for setting the trend, making the seen happen, and being recognized "the in thing!" .... new G.L.B.T. members of the community have learned that this is how a gay person should act..... we have all played a part in its over barring weight..... because of how shallow most G.L.B.T. peoples are these days we can't expect to keep a relationship with other members of our community because of the fact that it is all about the glam and the look we are going for..... it is no longer about what is on the inside but what is worn on the body itself.....

All that I can say on this matter being a single gay male of 3 years is that if we all took the time to stop judging one another for the cloths we wear and start digging deeper into the inner beauty and acknowledging it as more important then the cloths we wear or the latest iteams to buy on the market or even the great green dollar itself, maybe, just maybe could we keep a relationship going and not let petty things like money or clothing or any superficial item get between us......

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Permalink Reply by phillipe le feaux on April 16, 2009 at 9:18am

hi i am in ewcastle where do u live

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Permalink Reply by phillipe le feaux on April 16, 2009 at 9:19am

i am in newcastle where do u live

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